Being rejected is truly one of the most painful experiences a person can face. And it comes in many different forms.
People may get rejected overtly for things they have said, or for attitudes or behaviors. Sometimes they are rejected for a job application, or even sometimes as a lover.
It may be for a one time occurrence, or it may be for you as a person. Sometimes the rejection may be considered fitting.
Then there is the rejection that is more subtle. It may come in the form of being ignored, or being slightly diminished. This can sometimes be a more crazy-making form of rejection, because the person being rejected might have difficulty putting their finger on what exactly was done amiss.
Rejecting behavior can happen between strangers, mere acquaintances or even between best of friends. We might not be too stung when a complete stranger walks away from what we are saying, but when the rejection comes from a loved one and is permanent, the pain can go deep.
In contrast, people can do things that show acceptance, either of another person’s actions or of the person as an individual.
What makes you feel accepted? Write me some of your thoughts on the topic.
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Congrats on your beautiful looking website Sheryl. Great articles too.
In response to what makes me feel accepted as opposed as rejected – even in subtle ways as being ignored – I’d say that being acknowledged. Simple things: eye contact, a smile, a nod. Being listened to and listened to. The people closer to me should read in between the lines. And – since there are 3 males in my household – many times I have to point that out, and – thanks to counselling in my early 20s – I DO it.
Looking forward for more. All the mest. Much success,
Veronica
Thanks, Veronica..! You’re so right about the simple things.. Eye contact, a smile, a nod – some of these are simply good manners. That’s great you pass on the good word to the guys in your household! Sometimes our manners, or lack thereof, communicate something we were not intending 😉
Many thanks, Veronica..
You raise significant points!